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Figuring it out....

Well I am getting into the groove with work. I am enjoying the job and things at home are calming down. Last week went smoothly. Monday was a very special day because we welcomed Katie and Lauren to our family. Michelle was able to cary them to 38 weeks so she they were big babies. Katie was 6lbs 1oz and Lauren was 6lbs 15oz. I was able to be at the hospital when they were born and I was able to hold Katie when she was just 1 hour old. It was such an emotional experience and one I will never forget. I am so excited to have two little nieces to love. They are such a blessing. I took the girls to get flu shots on Tuesday after school. Wednesday and Thursday were regular work/school days. Friday Anna and I got some stuff done and then picked her friend Stella up from school. I took the little girls to lunch and then picked up Lilly. That evening was the Silver Gate Harvest Festival and the girls had a blast. I left a little early to meet my friend Cathy for dinner. She is a flight attendant and had a lay over. We had a wonderful dinner at Miguel's and then chatted some more over coffee at Starbucks. I am do excited that she will next Saturday and we get to go to lunch. Saturday was busy!! Anna had a soccer game and then 2 birthday parties for school friends. Lilly enjoyed some time with grandma Franny. They got their nails done. Then we met up with John and Lilly and went to the Lewis' for Elizabeth's birthday party. It was a wonderful party. Elizabeth has had a tough year with some hip issues and it was a special celebration. We were there til 7:30 and when we get home we were all ready for bed. Sunday was church and then we headed over to the Newcomer's. Jaimee and I let the kids play and took them to lunch while the boys went surfing. After that we took a family trip to Costco ;). It was a fun and full weekend!

Weekend Away

A few months ago John suggested that we get away for 3 nights with the girls.  He found a good deal at a resort in Palm Springs and booked it.  Little did we know that we would all need a little R and R. Getting back into work/home balance has been tough and this break came at the perfect time.  I worked Tuesday and Wednesday this week so that we could be free to leave mid day Thursday.  I got everything packed up and picked up Lilly (she get's out at 12:35 on Thursday).  Anna had a field trip so Courtney brought her home.  We loaded up and away we went.  We got to Palm Springs a little after 4 and stopped for dinner. We checked into the resort and John took the girls for a swim while I went to the store for a few things. We all got to bed early. Friday morning we woke up and had a yummy breakfast at the hotel, we headed back to the room and got ready for a day at splashtopia the resort's water park. We all enjoyed the water slides, lazy river, and little beach. We had pool service for lunch, the girls love when food is delivered to them, room service or pool service. They also deliver adult drinks :). We were there for over 6 hours. We got cleaned up and headed to PF Chang for dinner and then to get some ice cream. We were all tired and went back to the hotel. The girls and I went to sleep and John met up with Mark and a few other friends for an overnight hike. Yes, they are a little nuts. The next morning the girls and I had room service for breakfast, played, and headed back to splashtopia. John did not get back til almost 2pm. One guy couldn't make it and they all got separated for a while. Thankfully they all met back up and had lunch before the other's heading back to San Diego and John meeting up with us. We were at the pool, etc for about 6 hours again and everyone was tired. We got ready for dinner and headed to a Mexican place a few people had recommend. Well it was closed for a private party :(. We ended up at chipotle. At least the girls were happy! After our gourmet dinner we decided to head to over the rainbow cupcakes. It was a bit of a drive, but yummy. We headed back to the resort and got some sleep. Sunday we woke up and ordered room service, the girls were thrilled. John took them to the pool and I went on a run/walk :). We are heading home soon. I am so glad we got to get away. I feel recharged for the week ahead. My friend Leslie H. Is going to help me plan my week. I am excited to get an external opinion on things. She raised 4 kids and works at our church so I know she will have good ideas.

I ramble.......

Last spring I had a "moment".  I knew Anna was starting Pre-k, Monday to Thursday from 9 to 2 and Lilly would be in 2nd grade.  What was I going to do with myself?  If I have to much free time I waste time.  I thought about getting my IUD removed and trying for another baby, we talked about adoption, and I called my old boss and asked if she had a part-time job for me.  The old boss said their was nothing available and I didn't have it in me to get a resume together .  My sister in law became pregnant with twins so that assured me a baby fix and the thought of starting over with a new baby seamed overwhelming.  So I just decided to enjoy the summer and re-evaluate in the fall.  Well the old boss called in July with a job.  I took it and pushed it back til late August, just before school started.  During my what am I going to do with myself "moment". I committed to MOPS, Thursday Club, and being a Girl Scout co-leader.  Now I also have a job!  O wow!  All of these things are great, but it is a lot.  I have a lot going on, a lot to balance.  It is overwhelming and I am still figuring out how to make it all happen without me loosing my mind.  I also want to play tennis, O I love tennis.  I also am getting back into pilates :).  There are financial goals that I feel very strongly about making and therefor the job needs to stay.  I am not volunteering at Lilly's school and I am learning to delegate and say NO.   Saying no and asking for help can be hard for me, but if I am not going to loose my marbles it is going to have to happen.

Back to Work!

At the end of August I went back to work at Workway. It was supposed to be 16 hours a week, but after a few internal changes it was changed to 20. I work about 3 hours on Monday when the girls are at school and all day Wednesday and Thursday, and a conference call Friday mornings. I run MOPS at my church every other Tuesday and on non-meeting Tuesday's I need to prep (let's just say I am a little behind on the prep work). I am very thankful that I spent a lot of time in August before work started getting everything set up. Basically I am busy every hour the girls are in school (Anna does not have school on Fridays). I am still in the "figuring out how to make this work" phase. It is very overwhelming, as I still have to keep my home running. Last Monday I lost it! I felt like everything was falling apart and I just lost it! My mom called as I was driving home crying and I told her how hard all of this was. She felt so bad that she came over and did all of the dishes and straitened up, while i sat on the computer and worked. At noon John and I went to see Anna do her all about me report at school. It was so cute and she did a great job! After we went to lunch and I told him that I could not keep working unless he helped out with the house. We made a list and he has been making a good effort. Bottom line is that I need to come up with some ways to make life easier and plan more. I also need to fit in me time!  I am still figuring out a schedule with my cleaning lady. She came on Tuesday and let me tell you that was huge! My mother in law was so sweet to keep the house clean til I got home from work! So I have a lot of thinking to do. I LOVE MOPS, and I hate to give it up. I just don't think I can do both.  It is a huge financial help to have me work. There are bills we need to pay off, i need a new car, and trips we want to take and those things will not happen without extra income. Let's just say work pays a lot more then MOPS.  John loves his job and it allows him to be around and be a great dad. I have to put things in perspective, and decide what is best for our family as a whole. Both girls are in school and my MIL lives with us and my parents down the street and they are both willing to help. There is really no excuse for me to not work part time. So I hope getting my feelings on "paper" will help. I know something has got to give, It is hard.  I have decided to give it 6 months before I make any big decisions.  I also need to keep MOPS til Anna is done with school because it pays for Pre-k.

Back to the blog

Well it has been a while:). I am going to blog again, I need a journal of my life and this seams like the easiest way. Lots going on in the Feher household. Lilly is in 2nd grade and doing great. With a little support she is thriving at school. We also have her ADHD under control. She is riding once, sometimes twice a week and is doing great. She is so confident on a horse. Grandma Franny drives her out to El Cajon for lessons. She is also going art lessons and Girl Scouts. She will start tennis soon. She went to tennis camp this summer and loved it. Anna is loving pre-k. She is also taking gymnastics. She is doing great at gymnastics and loves it! John's job is going good and he is still doing lots of races. He is also taking karate and going for his black belt. The big news for me is that I am back in the working world. I was offered a job at my old company and started in late August. I am working 20 hours a week. I am still adjusting and to be honest it has been a little rough. I am figuring out a balance and I am still running MOPS at PLCPC. I feel very passionate about MOPS and I need to make some decisions. I feel myself being very indecisive about how I see my work life playing out. I am going to see how the next few months go before making any big decisions. I am getting more help with the house and realizing I don't have to cook every night. I can't do it all and I am accepting that I can take shortcuts and get some help. Just as long as my family is happy and taken care of.

There are some wonderful things coming up, most importantly my sister's wedding in June. I am so happy for her and Ian. They are an amazing couple and I am so glad they found each other. I am already looking forward to our time up North next summer. Our dear friend Catie Hanna is getting married next fall and the girls are also in that wedding. Also, I will be an aunt in the next few days to 2 baby girls. I am beyond excited to welcome these 2 into our family. I know they will bring so much joy!

Big Sur and Home

On July 2nd we finished packing the car and headed out of Stinson at about 10am. I was so sad to leave, but knew I would be back soon. We headed to Gale's in the city and brought all of our "beach gear" to her house for next time. The girls and I stayed with her for a few hours while John took the car to get an oil change. It was so nice to spend some time with Gale. She is such a special person and she really is part of our family. I also love being at my aunt Helen's house (Gale lives there). She has been got for a while now, but her house still has a special feeling.

Me and Gale

When the car was ready we headed down the coast to Big Sur. It is a spectacular drive. We got to our hotel and checked in and headed to the pool. John took the girls swimming and I got organized - we took a little walk in the river and had some dinner. The girls watched a movie in the room and we relaxed. In the morning we got up and went to Deetjens for breakfast. This place is magical and it looks almost the same as it did when it was built in the 1930's. Not that kid friendly, but we enjoyed our meal.
The beautiful waterfall Deetjens

From there we went to see the waterfall that goes into the ocean at Julia Pfeiffer State Park - the view was amazing!Then we headed back to the hotel and John took the girls to the pool while I packed up. We ended up staying there until 3pm. Anna decided she was done with the pool and we hung out in the river!

At 3 we got in the car and continued South. We stopped along the way to get some fireworks and for dinner. We made it to Santa Maria in time for another dip in the pool - my kids LOVE to swim! We stayed there for the night and in the morning finished our drive home. We arrived home to some neighbors having a 4th of July celebration so we joined in - ALL of the kids (and adults) enjoyed the fireworks!

It was a special 3 weeks and we miss all of our family and friends in Northern California! It means the world to me that my girls get to have all of the special memories of San Francisco and Stinson that I got to have as a child. Thank you Auntie Sophie, Auntie Effie, Auntie Kathleen, Patty, Gale, Uncle John, Great Uncle Johnny, Great Aunt Kay, Rosie, Chrissy, and Annie for making our trip so special! We love you!!!

My Birthday

In Patty's Garden July 1, 2010 - I had a perfect day! I got to sleep in and then relaxed and read. I went to Bolinas for a few things (going there always makes me happy). We played on the beach with the girls and then decided to go on an adventure. When we were driving down our street our friend Annie came driving up and jumped out of her car. She had a gift for me from my mom. It was a gift certificate to her wonderful book store! When we pulled onto the road the plan was to go to point reyes station, but as we drove we decided to go to Point Reyes Light House instead. It is a beautiful drive that takes you through the town of Inverness and some woods and then through a number of farms. The farms on the point all date back to the 1800's and are wonderful to see. The cows come right up to the road and the girls loved that. It is a long, slow, and relaxing drive - I loved it! When we got to the Light House both girls were asleep and it was WINDY. So windy that they closed the stairs going down to the lighthouse. John tried to go and I stayed in the car - I got out to see the view which was breathtaking! The girls woke up on the ride back and we stopped at Drakes Bay. We got back to Stinson at dinner time and tried the new restaurant in town. The food was good and it was very kid friendly - prefect for us. We headed back to the house and Patty took some pictures. Lilly asked that we take our pictures in Patty's garden and not on the beach (Lilly LOVES Patty's garden). She got some great pictures! I felt beyond blessed to get to spend my 34 th birthday in the same place I spent my 1st birthday. I do not think that words can express how much Stinson Beach and the people there mean to me. It truly is my happy place!

Cows with the ocean in the background Point Reyes Light House

A few more days at Stinson – (6/28-6/30)

Monday afternoon we relaxed on the beach and I made dinner at home. Tuesday we had some wonderful visitors. Ann came down from Marshall (about 40 minutes North right on Tomales Bay) to spend time with us at the beach. Ann is my brother Justin’s mom. She is so fun to be with and we had a wonderful time talking and enjoying the beach. My sweet cousin’s also came up a little later in the day. They brought lunch for all of us! I just love Effie and Kathleen so much and so wish we all lived closer. We all enjoyed lunch together at the house and then headed back to the beach. It was a perfect beach day (all week has been perfect weather). Ann headed back to Marshall and Effie and Kathleen left a little after. I went to Parkside to pick-up a pizza for dinner. Wednesday we went on a hike from the Pan Toll station. We hiked about 1.5 miles and Lilly did great! Anna is still refusing to wear shoes so we carried her the whole way! She did love the little “island” we found near a beaver dam and walked around in the rocks and water. We headed home and Anna fell asleep in the car and John, Lilly, and I had lunch. I went to the Annie’s bookstore alone and got a book and a few little things. I just love Stinson Beach Books and it is a treat to go alone and just look and shop. John took Lilly surfing and Anna and I relaxed and played. At 6pm Rosie (she is the mom of a childhood friend of mine Chrissy and I have known her since the 2nd grade – I even went along on family vacations with them as a kid, and she now lives in Stinson and is one of Patty’s closest friends – small world =)) and Patty came over to watch the girls. John and I headed to the Coast Café in Bolinas for a Yummy dinner. We go there every year just the 2 of us – it is a fun tradition. After dinner we headed to The Sand Dollar for a drink. When I was little our friends owned The Sand Dollar and I have fond memories of Sophie, Carlisle, and I eating a big piece of mud pie. We got back to the house and everyone was very happy – they had made cookies and then went to get ice cream and played at the park in town. The girls had such a wonderful time with Patty and Rosie and Anna woke up this morning and asked if Patty was coming back to make more cookies. Good thing Patty is right next door.

A Few Pictures......

The hut we found down the beach

Bath time fun - they take lots of bath's here
Ice Cream at Parkside - YUMMY!

Patty at Audubon

Lilly at Audubon

Tuesday Night - Monday

Tuesday afternoon we ran into Rosie (an family friend) at the market and invited her to join us for dinner. Patty and Rosie came for dinner and we had a feast of local Muscles, artichokes, steak and an AMAZING lemon tart that Patty made! It was wonderful! Sophie and Kate left in the morning and it was just me and the girls! We just relaxed, went to Parkside for lunch, played on the playground. We went to Bolinas get a few things and rented a few movies. Patty made dinner for us and we just relaxed. Thursday the girls and I spent a lot of time on the beach in the morning. We found a "house" someone had make and the girls loved it. We dug for sandcrabs and just enjoyed the quiet beach. In the afternoon Anna was getting tired and Lilly wanted to see the horses, lamas, and cows so we took a drive up North. We drove through Point Reyes Station, but the kite store was still closed so we headed North to Tomales Bay and I got some muscles to make myself for dinner. We drove back and the girls slept in the car. That night I made myself a wonderful dinner of salad - all from Gospel Flats, bread from Freestone, Tomales Bay Muscles, and Cowgirl cheese. It was so relaxing! Friday morning we work up and went to the beach, made lunch at the house, and then headed to Bolinas to get more veggies and do some laundry. The beach must have worn the girls out, because they both fell asleep on the short ride. There is a wonderful (big) organic farm and on Friday afternoons they have a farm stand. They have a wonderful variety. Friday night Patty picked up dinner for us at Parkside. John got in Friday night and hiked the Dipsea Trail by moon light (and a head lamp). He got to the house at 12:30am. He loved is late night hike over the mountain. The girls were so excited to wake up Saturday morning and see their dad. They played with him and loved showing him the house (he was here last year, but they were excited). Lilly was especially excited to show him that she was sleeping on the top bunk. John took the girls to town to find a kite and get lunch. I went to get a few things at the store and then Maria and Paul arrived. Maria is John's sister and Paul is her husband. They live in San Fran and have come up for a night the past few years. Paul is a true foodie and made us a wonderful dinner! He also works for Ghirardelli and brought LOTS of yummy chocolate. After dinner and some drinks everyone went to sleep and John and I went crab hunting. John had seen LOTS of crabs on the beach the night before (we think because of the full moon). We caught 3 and had a night walk on the very quiet beach. Sunday we made breakfast and then John, Lilly, Maria, and Paul headed to Audubon Canyon Ranch and tired Anna and I headed to Tomales Bay to get muscles and oysters. They were out of muscles, but I got 2 dozen big oysters. We got back and Paul shucked the oysters and we BBQ'd them with lots of veggies. We also cooked up the crabs we caught - Lilly freaked out until John explained things to her. It was a Beautiful day at the beach and there were so many people on the beach. We headed down after lunch and John took Lilly surfing and Anna and I played on the beach. Maria and Paul headed back to the city. Today is Monday and John made us a yummy breakfast and then went to fly kites on the beach with the girls. I headed to Bolinas to do laundry and get some food at the store and gospel flats. It is amazing how calm and relaxing this place is. Being here is good for my sole!

Sunday Sophie's friends came up to hike and they cooked us a wonderful dinner. We relaxed and went to bed early. Monday morning was foggy so around 11am I decided that the girls and I should take an adventure to Freestone to the Wild Flour Bakery. Effie brought us bread from there on Saturday when she came to get Kathleen and Courtney. It was so YUMMY! Kate went to a wedding in Napa on Sunday she met us in Freestone and then we headed to Sebastopol for a little sight seeing. Then we brought Kate back to her car in Freestone and she followed us back to Stinson. 2 of Sophie's friends from work had come up for the day and Patty brought over chili for dinner - to go with the bread from Wild Flour. On Tuesday morning we relaxed and then headed to Point Reyes Station. The intention was to buy cites, but the Kite store was closed. We had lunch and walked around town, got some veggies and headed back to the beach house. Both girls fell asleep on the drive. Lilly woke up when we got home and I put Anna in her bed. Kate and Sophie stayed with the girls and I headed to Bolinas to do some laundry and get a few things from the store. Yesterday Kate picked up some Muscles from the Marshal Store and we are going to make them for dinner tonight! Yum!

Saturday and Sunday...

Anna and Lilly on the top bunk!

Saturday we woke up early - well the girls did and Courtney came in the took them so I could sleep. I love that I watched her and now she helps with the girls. She was 3 when we moved to the house on Alhambra. Watching her grow up has been such an honor. I love that she was in my wedding! We all headed to the beach - it was Very Windy so one of our wonderful neighbors lent us a wind "tent". We played on the beach and relaxed. Lilly met up with some friends (they rent the house across the street the same week every year) and helped dig a BIG hole in the sand. We went back and forth all day. We made a trip to Gospel Flats Farm stand - I LOVE this place! They have all of their produce on display and a payment box - all done on the honor system - only in Bolinas (or Bobo as we call it). We made lunch and Sophie's friend Greg came up from the city with his friend Vivi and her boyfriend Tyler. Effie and John came to get Kathleen and Courtney to take them back to the city (they were in Calistoga for a few days). Greg and company stayed and made a nice BBQ. We had our first taste of Cowgirl Creamery Cheese for the year - so yummy! They took off around 8pm and the girls went to bed in the bunk room. Sophie and I watched a movie and I fell asleep on the couch. I woke up around 2am and decided to sleep in the bunk room with the girls. On Sunday we woke up, the girls took a bath and we headed with Patty to Audubon Canyon Ranch. My mom used to take us there as kids. She was friends with the family who lived there and I loved taking the girls. We went on a nice hike and saw lots of birds and other animals - including a big buck deer. We came back to a surprise visit from John's sister Maria and her husband Paul. They were in the area to go on a hike and stopped by. They will be back for the night next weekend. When they left the girls and I went with Patty to Bolinas (with a stop at Gospel Flats for more veggies). We went to the organic store there and I love it! Bolinas is an amazing place and I will do a post on it soon. Anna fell asleep on the way back and Lilly and I read the new books we got at Audubon Canyon. Now Lilly is over at Patty's baking something special. I just love that they get to have time together and I know they enjoy their time alone. Sophie reminded me today that Patty (and Annie) are the only people we have known our entire lives (who we are not related to). I love Stinson!

PS - I put French Braids in Lilly's hair today for the first time - so cute!

We Made It...

It took us 10 hours and 10 minutes, but we made it from San Diego to San Francisco! We stopped at IHOP for lunch and again at Casa De Frutas for some treats, a train ride, and a carousel ride (a very fun stop for all of us). We got to Gale's at 7pm and she greeted us with a yummy dinner. On Wednesday we went to China Town with my sister and a friend Greg from Rome and then had a wonderful dinner at Auntie Effie's. On Thursday we went to the Academy of Science Museum in Golden Gate Park and LOVED the Aquarium and the kids play area! From there we headed to Millbrae to visit Audrey and Shelley (they babysat me when I was the girls age). I love seeing them! They have been so important in my life since I was 3 and I was a flower girl in Aud's wedding when I was 4 - Aud and I also share a birthday. After our visit we headed to Georgio's for pizza with the girls, Kathleen, and Gale. This morning we relaxed - Gale made us the best breakfast and I packed the car - it was beyond packed!!! Then we picked up Kathleen and headed to Stinson. We got here and Kathleen took the girls to the beach and I unpacked. Then we headed to Parkside and got some yummies and then went to visit Annie at the bookstore and got the girls new dolls and books. I LOVE the bookstore (and Annie). Then I made some dinner and our sweet Sophie and Court arrived! Patty stopped by for a visit. We enjoyed some wine and then a walk on the beach. The girls are in the bunk room and Lilly is on the top bunk - loving that the girls are sleeping in the same room Sophie and I did. The perfect first day at Stinson.

We 're Off...

This morning the girls and I leave beautiful San Diego for San Francisco and then Stinson Beach! First stop is Gale House in wonderful San Francisco. We will spend Wednesday and Thursday visiting with family and a few favorite museums and then Friday morning we are off to Stinson! If there is 1 place on this Earth that makes me calm and happy it is Stinson and the house we stay in I have spent many summers at! This year is especially special because I get to spend my birthday there. We will get to spend time with very special friends and just relax on the beach. I will write more about the significance of this place and house in the coming days. Bloggy World I am back!

Ashley's Prints with Love Fundraiser

Please Join Us............

Date: Sunday, June 6, 2010
Time: 3:00pm - 7:00pm
Location: Glasser Home

3817 Jennings Street - San Diego, CA 92106(Point Loma)
619-847-2240

Please join us for a Silpada Fund Raiser to benefit Ashley's Prints with Love! Ashley's Prints with Love is a memorial to my niece Ashley Nova Heffington who passed away on January 12, 2010 at the age of 9. The gift of her thumb print in silver was given to her family. Now her family is giving that gift to others. Please help us give a precious memory to parents who have lost a child in the ICU at Rady Children's Hospital. These charms allow parents to keep their child close to their heart when they are no longer with us on Earth. You can view the charms at www.designsbyjanessa.com. We give each family 2 charms. We hope you can join us for this event! If you are unable to attend please contact Zoe to place your order - zoefeher@cox.net - to preview the Jewelry please go to www.mysilpada.com/zoe.feher and click on Jewelry Catalog 100% of the profits from this party and outside orders will go Directly to Ashley's Prints!

If you have any questions Please Call Zoe at 619-847-2240 or e-mail zoefeher@cox.net

PLEASE BRING FRIENDS!
ALL ARE WELCOME (children included)!

A New Year

I know it is March, but to me it is the beginning of a new year. January was awful, just awful. I experienced a loss that I never expected. It was awful, but it was also beautiful. Seeing all of the love, prayers, and support given to Ashley, Cindy, Roger, and Taylor (and the rest of our family) was amazing. My faith in God was solidified. My faith is so much more a part of who I am because of my sweet niece. I feel like God had prepared me for this - I know this might sound strange, but in September I joined a bible study. This is something I never had done before and I just knew that I needed to. I needed to have a closer relationship with God. Now I know why. God needed me to have faith and lean on him during this time. Before I started my bible study my faith was there, but not strong enough. God needed me to understand why he did not answer our prayers in the way we were hoping, but he did answer them in the way he planned. He needed me to be strong for my family. God gave us the gift of 13 days with Miss A to say good-by. I can say that I will be forever grateful for those days. For all the hours that Cindy and Roger allowed me to spend with their precious girl. That was the greatest gift I could ever ask for and I thank them from the bottom of my heart. I sang to her, talked to her, and prayer for her and held her hand. Her loss still hurts so much. The girls and I talk about her every day. Both Lilly and Anna talk about that Ashley is in Heaven with Jesus. They tell me that when they die that will be with her - I tell them that that will not be for a very long time. This morning Lilly said that she wanted to have an Angel tea party with Ashley. They have both started Ballet class and I so wish she was here to teach them. She was such an amazing little girl - her calming influence on Lilly was profound! The hole she leaves in our family will never go away. But my faith is there - through the tears.

Etsy site is up!

Please go to www.loveashley.etsy.com and support a great cause!!!!

Ashley's Prints with Love

As most people my beautiful 9 year old niece passed away on January 12th from injuries she sustained in a car crash on December 31st. I have decided that I want to do something for other families who face the same tragedy that we faced when Ashley passed away. I have a friend who makes beautiful charms using your child's thumb print. A few days after the accident I brought the "compound" with me to the hospital and took impressions of Ashley's thumb prints. I brought the impressions to Janessa (http://www.designsbyjanessa.com/) and she made Ashley's prints into beautiful charms for Cindy, Roger, Taylor, and Mary (my MIL - Ashley's grandma). They are able to wear Ashley's print around their neck and keep her close to their hearts. While I was doing the impressions the nurse and social worker commented on what a wonderful idea this was. There is a process called memory making that they do in the ICU before a child passes away. They do hand prints of the child on paper and also in clay. Now another item will be added to the memory making process. Janessa and I will meet with the social workers at Children's on Thursday and she will teach them how to take the thumb impression of the children and we will provide the family with 2 Thumb print charms with their child's print.

How you can help! Janessa has given me a very good rate, but the prints are not inexpensive to make. The charms will cost $30 each and I want to give 2 to each family. An average of 4 children pass away in the ICU at Children's hospital every month. I am asking for people to donate items that can be sold on an ETSY site to raise money or to give a donation. You can donate by paypaling money to clipfairyshop@cox.net or mailing me a check. ALL PROFITS from the Etsy site and donations will go directly to paying for the charms! I will cover all shipping costs myself! PLEASE let me know if you would like to help a family keep the memory of their child close to their heart! My e mail address is zoefeher@cox.net

Ashley Nova Heffington

September 1, 2000 to January 12, 2010

Her life was way to short and the pain of her death will be with us for all of our lives. I remember the day she was born. I had a dermatologist appointment at in the Xi med building right next to Scrips La Jolla and I was looking out the window when the doctor came in. I told her that my boyfriend's sister was in labor and having a baby today across the way. I could see the hospital from the window. I was so excited! I remember visiting the next day and seeing her sweet face. I remember going to their house a few days later and Cindy would not let me hold Ashley. She loved her so much. I remember buying her pretty things like the precious moments figuring for her first birthday. I remember that a 21 month old Ashley would not walk down the isle at our wedding and that Diana had to carry her. I remember the day Cindy called me and asked me to watch Ashley because her water had broken and she went to have Taylor. I remember having her at our little house in OB one afternoon and I had taken her to the farmers market and when we came back to our house she threw up all over the living room floor. I was so scared that I did something to her (she was about 3 and she also puked all over my little Honda civic). I remember that she helped me open all of my gifts at the baby shower Leslie Hanna had for me before Lilly was born. I remember how happy she was that Lilly was a girl and that she wanted to feed her. I think that her relationship with Lilly is what makes me the most sad. My Lilly adored Ashley. Ashley was such an amazing role model for Lilly. I will write more soon - right now my eyes are to filled with tears.