A New Year

I know it is March, but to me it is the beginning of a new year. January was awful, just awful. I experienced a loss that I never expected. It was awful, but it was also beautiful. Seeing all of the love, prayers, and support given to Ashley, Cindy, Roger, and Taylor (and the rest of our family) was amazing. My faith in God was solidified. My faith is so much more a part of who I am because of my sweet niece. I feel like God had prepared me for this - I know this might sound strange, but in September I joined a bible study. This is something I never had done before and I just knew that I needed to. I needed to have a closer relationship with God. Now I know why. God needed me to have faith and lean on him during this time. Before I started my bible study my faith was there, but not strong enough. God needed me to understand why he did not answer our prayers in the way we were hoping, but he did answer them in the way he planned. He needed me to be strong for my family. God gave us the gift of 13 days with Miss A to say good-by. I can say that I will be forever grateful for those days. For all the hours that Cindy and Roger allowed me to spend with their precious girl. That was the greatest gift I could ever ask for and I thank them from the bottom of my heart. I sang to her, talked to her, and prayer for her and held her hand. Her loss still hurts so much. The girls and I talk about her every day. Both Lilly and Anna talk about that Ashley is in Heaven with Jesus. They tell me that when they die that will be with her - I tell them that that will not be for a very long time. This morning Lilly said that she wanted to have an Angel tea party with Ashley. They have both started Ballet class and I so wish she was here to teach them. She was such an amazing little girl - her calming influence on Lilly was profound! The hole she leaves in our family will never go away. But my faith is there - through the tears.

Etsy site is up!

Please go to www.loveashley.etsy.com and support a great cause!!!!

Ashley's Prints with Love

As most people my beautiful 9 year old niece passed away on January 12th from injuries she sustained in a car crash on December 31st. I have decided that I want to do something for other families who face the same tragedy that we faced when Ashley passed away. I have a friend who makes beautiful charms using your child's thumb print. A few days after the accident I brought the "compound" with me to the hospital and took impressions of Ashley's thumb prints. I brought the impressions to Janessa (http://www.designsbyjanessa.com/) and she made Ashley's prints into beautiful charms for Cindy, Roger, Taylor, and Mary (my MIL - Ashley's grandma). They are able to wear Ashley's print around their neck and keep her close to their hearts. While I was doing the impressions the nurse and social worker commented on what a wonderful idea this was. There is a process called memory making that they do in the ICU before a child passes away. They do hand prints of the child on paper and also in clay. Now another item will be added to the memory making process. Janessa and I will meet with the social workers at Children's on Thursday and she will teach them how to take the thumb impression of the children and we will provide the family with 2 Thumb print charms with their child's print.

How you can help! Janessa has given me a very good rate, but the prints are not inexpensive to make. The charms will cost $30 each and I want to give 2 to each family. An average of 4 children pass away in the ICU at Children's hospital every month. I am asking for people to donate items that can be sold on an ETSY site to raise money or to give a donation. You can donate by paypaling money to clipfairyshop@cox.net or mailing me a check. ALL PROFITS from the Etsy site and donations will go directly to paying for the charms! I will cover all shipping costs myself! PLEASE let me know if you would like to help a family keep the memory of their child close to their heart! My e mail address is zoefeher@cox.net

Ashley Nova Heffington

September 1, 2000 to January 12, 2010

Her life was way to short and the pain of her death will be with us for all of our lives. I remember the day she was born. I had a dermatologist appointment at in the Xi med building right next to Scrips La Jolla and I was looking out the window when the doctor came in. I told her that my boyfriend's sister was in labor and having a baby today across the way. I could see the hospital from the window. I was so excited! I remember visiting the next day and seeing her sweet face. I remember going to their house a few days later and Cindy would not let me hold Ashley. She loved her so much. I remember buying her pretty things like the precious moments figuring for her first birthday. I remember that a 21 month old Ashley would not walk down the isle at our wedding and that Diana had to carry her. I remember the day Cindy called me and asked me to watch Ashley because her water had broken and she went to have Taylor. I remember having her at our little house in OB one afternoon and I had taken her to the farmers market and when we came back to our house she threw up all over the living room floor. I was so scared that I did something to her (she was about 3 and she also puked all over my little Honda civic). I remember that she helped me open all of my gifts at the baby shower Leslie Hanna had for me before Lilly was born. I remember how happy she was that Lilly was a girl and that she wanted to feed her. I think that her relationship with Lilly is what makes me the most sad. My Lilly adored Ashley. Ashley was such an amazing role model for Lilly. I will write more soon - right now my eyes are to filled with tears.

Ashley

My sweet 9 yearold niece was very badly hurt in a car accident on December 31st. The link to her carebridhe site is http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/ashleyheffington - I am having some trouble with pictures on that site so I am posting them here. PLEASE PRAy for her recovery!

Beautiful Miss AAshley and Lilly in Grandma's bed

Cousins

Ashley and Lilly

HOLIDAY BAZAAR

Hope to see you there....

Holiday Bazaar
Join us in our garden! 3817 Jennings Street – Point Loma
Saturday, Novemb er 14th – 2-5pm

Handcrafted Silver Jewelry
By Silpada – www.mysilpada.com/zoe.feher

Adorable Children’s Hair Clips and Head Bands
By The Clip Fairy www.theclipfairy.etsy.com

Beautiful Hand Made Children’s Clothing
By Flip Flop Fancy www.flipflopfancy.etsy.com

Personalized Stationery, Accessories, and Such...

By HauteMammas.com

Holiday Decorating Items
By Southern Living at Home www.southernlivingathome.com

Unique Wall Decor
By Uppercase Living www.uppercaseliving.com

Holiday Aromas for the Home
By Scentsy www.scentsy.com

*50% of the profits from the sales of Silpada Jewelry will be donated to Point Loma Presbyterian Church. 25% to the Nursery Program and the additional 25% will be donated to PLCPC’s Children’s Ministry Program! We will also have a raffle benefiting these 2 programs!

Hosted By Zoe Feher and Franny Glasser

Halloween 2009

We had a fun filled week leading up to the main event on Saturday night! We started on Thirsday with our annoal playgroup Halloween Party. Liz hosted and it was a blast. We each bring goodies and all the kids get to "trick or treet" from all the mom's. Here is the group!



On Friday we went to the Heffington's Annual Halloween Party! The girls had a blast playing with their cousins and all of the big kids! (I forgot my camera)!



Saturday we had a calm day because we knew the night would be filled with lots of fun, friends, and candy!!! At 4pm we headed to the Castagnola's to celebrate Halloween the way we have for so many years! Jess's birthday is November 2nd, so we always celebrate Halloween and her Birthday together. It is a wonderful tradition! Vicki made has Amazing Chili and Artichoke Dip - YUMMY! We took the kids out and Anna did her first trick or treating. Both girls had a blast!